tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post4489090747036789139..comments2024-02-04T21:35:47.949+00:00Comments on FortySomething FirstTime Mum: Can You Ever Get Enough Hugs? How do you feel?fsmumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-35843591234869375132012-07-27T19:41:42.569+01:002012-07-27T19:41:42.569+01:00Having a child definitely means you get loads of h...Having a child definitely means you get loads of hugs without much resistance on either side. It's great.fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-36660478998672313302012-06-05T08:38:13.531+01:002012-06-05T08:38:13.531+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.John Petterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06777782081339306554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-73500842358791127842012-05-12T17:50:06.302+01:002012-05-12T17:50:06.302+01:00Hey Donna, thanks for reading and commenting. Gre...Hey Donna, thanks for reading and commenting. Great to hear from you again!fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-50085714634749350112012-05-12T17:49:03.247+01:002012-05-12T17:49:03.247+01:00Thanks for the comments! Hugs to you! :)Thanks for the comments! Hugs to you! :)fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-68624820554866426742012-05-07T20:50:37.746+01:002012-05-07T20:50:37.746+01:00I was just thinking about this today. My grandchil...I was just thinking about this today. My grandchildren always hug us everytime they see us and each time they leave us. It's one of my favorite things to look forward to! <br /><br />As for other people and hugging, you would need to 'read the looks on their face' as you approach with open arms. Some back away, or put a hand between you and them. My thought is respect their space and in time, they may feel comfortable enough to allow a hug. I'm sure the lady you mentioned in your posting that hugs all over the world has run into this situation. <br /><br />Nice to have found you again, Claire. I've subscribed by email so I won't lose you again.Donna Peruginihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09119371217968036772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-4560690497672717942012-05-06T02:33:23.544+01:002012-05-06T02:33:23.544+01:00One of your commenters refered to a family hug. I ...One of your commenters refered to a family hug. I know it as a "group hug." When it's at least 3 people, someone will announce, "Group Hug, and then we'll all come together with arms around each other.<br /><br />I'm a hugger, though, my family doesn't always get a hug daily. We seem to kiss each other more as a greeting or to say good-bye.<br /><br />However, my friends get a hug. I guess that's because it feels weird to kiss them. lol<br /><br />Another of your commenters mentioned the "fake hug." I know what she means when she says that you can feel it. It is very stiff and awkward.<br /><br />Another thought about hugs: I learned that women in particular, have to be careful when hugging a man. When I was single, I hugged a man in church, of all places, and he thought that meant I liked him. lol Maybe I squeezed him a bit or something. <br /><br />I applaud the people you mentioned for trying to make hugging an act of caring and encouragement for our fellow human beings.<br /><br />Good post!Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-9385441862903675822012-04-28T16:25:37.250+01:002012-04-28T16:25:37.250+01:00When those people reach out to you for a hug, tell...When those people reach out to you for a hug, tell yourself it may be the last time you're ever gonna have the opportunity. After all, we never know for sure that it isn't.Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-55384717741144209042012-04-28T10:54:48.262+01:002012-04-28T10:54:48.262+01:00I understand what you mean. I feel bad though bec...I understand what you mean. I feel bad though because sometimes people that I know love me give me hugs and I don't respond as warmly as I would like to.fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-80566644106982001312012-04-28T10:53:49.660+01:002012-04-28T10:53:49.660+01:00I really like doing the family crushing hug! That&...I really like doing the family crushing hug! That's something I have no problem with at all.fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-82758271783504565752012-04-27T21:54:28.998+01:002012-04-27T21:54:28.998+01:00Thank you so much for visiting my blog and for sig...Thank you so much for visiting my blog and for signing on as a follower. I figured I'd stop by yours to return the favor. I love hugs. I love giving them, I love receiving them, and especially from my grandchildren. But with one caveat. I love REAL hugs. You know, the kind that make you feel something, whether loved, safe, comforted, or happy. Stiff fake hugs that are given for appearances sake, I can do without. Count me in as your newest follower.Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-89146257863972506932012-04-27T17:52:20.830+01:002012-04-27T17:52:20.830+01:00Great post and sums up exactly how I feel too. I l...Great post and sums up exactly how I feel too. I like my own space and don't feel at all comfortable kissing/hugging people who aren't that close to me or indeed my own parents and certainly not my inlaws but I hug my kids (and hubby) daily and we sometimes have family hugs when the 4 of us crush together for a huge hug. I notice that my daughter is the only grandchild who will run up to her grandparents to hug them and she is the one who initiates it. Hugs are great and I think we should do all we can to encourage themLornahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02015109751334088807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-30822424419470076102012-04-23T22:03:22.364+01:002012-04-23T22:03:22.364+01:00I am becoming more huggy slowly but surely! I also...I am becoming more huggy slowly but surely! I also feel sad when my four year old doesn't want hugs. I find I can accept as many hugs as I can get from him!fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-56658379858099745852012-04-20T19:56:27.422+01:002012-04-20T19:56:27.422+01:00ooo i love a good hug. when my four year old start...ooo i love a good hug. when my four year old starts to resist hugs or just squirms i feel sad and realise i want to hug my kids as much as possible because they will become teenagers and most likely all the hugs will be on their terms, if i get any at all. i used to be resistant to hugs like you but now much more huggy. beccabeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15837253280776125584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-53161044183700921362012-04-18T12:38:42.554+01:002012-04-18T12:38:42.554+01:00Maybe one day! You have enough to be going on wit...Maybe one day! You have enough to be going on with for the moment anyway! Tee Hee.fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-70891956631685376712012-04-16T18:22:02.541+01:002012-04-16T18:22:02.541+01:00I used to be really bad about hugs till the age of...I used to be really bad about hugs till the age of 23. I used to be uncomfortable and stiff if someone tried to hug me. My university friends loosened me up a little after several years of relentless hugging, and then my husband took care of the rest. He used to be very affectionate and loved hugs.<br /><br />I find it easiest to hug partners and close friends and almost never hug strangers. But hey, maybe one day!That gentleman's ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662660073866660544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-14995924944241722562012-04-13T11:49:27.337+01:002012-04-13T11:49:27.337+01:00Lucky you Cynthia!Lucky you Cynthia!fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-41923941952847786202012-04-13T11:49:09.766+01:002012-04-13T11:49:09.766+01:00I am taking all the hugs I can get from my four ye...I am taking all the hugs I can get from my four year old. I know he won't be so huggy as he gets bigger! At least I feel completely able to accept hugs from him. :)fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-73108037168074414872012-04-13T11:47:50.840+01:002012-04-13T11:47:50.840+01:00Wow. 12 hugs a day! I think I would be overwhelmed...Wow. 12 hugs a day! I think I would be overwhelmed with love!fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-75475260928022160442012-04-12T17:34:11.528+01:002012-04-12T17:34:11.528+01:00Great topic! Hmm...let me think...am I a hugger? M...Great topic! Hmm...let me think...am I a hugger? Most of the time, but one of my daughters is a MAJOR hugger!Cynthia Wilson Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06558777709284239081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-17898846805774881652012-04-11T09:01:27.513+01:002012-04-11T09:01:27.513+01:00I really enjoyed reading this post as I often feel...I really enjoyed reading this post as I often feel alone and awkward in my dislike of everyone wanting hugs and kisses (worse!) when we meet. I want to save hugs for my very best friends, occasionally my brothers, and most of all my kids. But then my kids aren't that keen on hugs either - my 19 yr old saves them for when I'm upset, she doesn't like them at all and rarely hugs her own friends. It's odd.Looking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-40671848749122769352012-04-11T02:01:56.840+01:002012-04-11T02:01:56.840+01:00I love hugs, but grew up in a non-huggy family. M...I love hugs, but grew up in a non-huggy family. My pastor always say we need a minimum of 12 hugs a day to feel good and happy and peaceful. I'm not sure about that for some, but, for me, that would be the frosting on top of the cake!<br />Glad to have finally caught up with you on Blogplicity.<br />Enjoy each and every hug from your precious little boy!<br />Blessings!Martha Jane Orlandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11620499267401065780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-86831343196966466572012-04-09T21:00:44.105+01:002012-04-09T21:00:44.105+01:00I'm not a huggy person on the whole. I hated ...I'm not a huggy person on the whole. I hated them from my mum when I was a child and still try to avoid them now (probably makes her feel so bad, but I can't help it even though I love her loads), but I don't get enough from my OH, and having a baby means you get lots without much resistance.<br /><br />I do have friends that are huggy people so it's natural to give them a hug, but with other people it can be a bit awkward if you've never been in the hugging situation, but then find yourself with them, along with other huggy friends who're hugging and you feel like you should be doing it too.<br /><br />Found you on the blow your own blog horn, link up (Bubbablue - won't let me comment as that!). Looking forward to reading more.EmmaThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273958012836742960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-46140778769888000512012-04-09T17:26:34.974+01:002012-04-09T17:26:34.974+01:00I just did! Its so lovely to have a child to hug. ...I just did! Its so lovely to have a child to hug. Better get lots of hugs in before they get big and dont want them as often!Claire Hegarty Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06375617516290626032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-59969025402914716312012-04-09T16:19:22.586+01:002012-04-09T16:19:22.586+01:00Hugs make me happy and feel better! I Its one of t...Hugs make me happy and feel better! I Its one of the tangible expression of my love to people. I cant wait to have hugs from my little one!Velascohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10078986271598389486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-794213438319675477.post-27076216825957356782012-04-09T12:56:56.299+01:002012-04-09T12:56:56.299+01:00:):)fsmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06594381836263987490noreply@blogger.com