From Pet Mum to Real Mum

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Three Generations

I recently heard that a girl I knew, in the place I grew up has become a grandmother.  I am forty-four.  She is a few years younger than me.  Her mother is also much younger than mine.  Her father is young too and still around.

I partied and careered my way through my twenties and most of my thirties. I shunned the idea of motherhood.  I felt that it was a poverty trap, a personality trap, and every kind of trap you could think of.  I had watched my mother struggle. I had watched some of my peers struggle.  I didn’t want that to happen in my life.

I didn’t believe I was maternal. I didn’t believe in the biological clock. But I was in for a huge shock.  At the age of thirty-eight it happened! It ticked loudly and constantly and I couldn’t ignore it.

Although I was twenty-nine when I met my husband and thirty-four when we married, having children was never on my mind. I assumed that if it ever did cross my mind, there would be no problem having them. I was wrong. 

When I hit forty and no children had come along, my husband and I decided that maybe parenthood just wasn’t destined for us. I decided to concentrate on other things and put it out of my mind. Then, out of the blue, at the age of forty-one I became pregnant.  We had our little son when I was three months off my forty-second birthday.

Because I waited such a long time to become a mother, my father never got to meet him.  He passed on when I was thirty-five and it was to be seven more years before my son was born. My mother is still around and they love each other a lot but she cannot do the same things a younger grandmother could do. His other grandparents are also in their seventies.

That new baby, grandchild of the girl I knew, will have young parents, grandparents and even great grandparents.  There will be three generations there to depend on. They can help with looking after the children while the parents have a break.

I never considered any of this in the past. It requires a lot of energy, strength and endeavour to raise children even if there is only one.  It can be challenging, pleasant and satisfying all at the same time.  Having a child or children in your forties makes it even more so.

I am so lucky to have been able to have my son in my forties and I am lucky that at least my mother is still around to get to know him. I wish I had done things a little differently sometimes and become a mother a little sooner, but I am mostly happy with the way things are.

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/08/older-doesnt-mean-wiser-by-claire.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/06/by-claire-hegarty-b.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/06/guest-post-late-bloomers-fortysomething.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/07/assumers-by-claire-hegarty.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/08/real-world-by-claire-hegarty_08.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/08/song-is-what-feelings-sound-like.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/07/much-more-to-learn-by-claire-hegarty.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/07/so-much-to-learn-claire-hegarty.html

http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2010/06/brave-and-selfish-by-claire-hegarty.html

Update

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Pop over to the WM Parenting connection for my latest article

I have an article update over at the brilliant WM Parenting Connection site if you want to pop over and take a look ! Any comments or feedback would be very much appreciated on that site and of course, on my blog here.

Thanks so much!

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Everyday Gyaan

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